Thursday, 10 September 2015

LDR Diary #3

This "waiting game" is bringing out the worst in me. Who said long distance relationship is a breeze? Nah. The words of those who survive long distance is a big fat lie! My experience with long distance relationship is excruciatingly painful (because you weren't with each other side), and emotionally draining. It was also time consuming. Between the two of us, I was the one who always makes adjustment to whatever situation we are in. I have to be content with myself that one day we'll be together and what he is doing is for the betterment of our future. 

How do I cope and make our relationship fun despite the distance?

Communicate. Never ever let the days go by without communication. When on video call, always wear your best smiles. Any whining must be suppressed. When there is something you want to talk about (i.e. expectations) talk to them about it, don't let them guess, keep it straight-forward.

Take Photos. We have this ongoing project aptly named "Half you. Half Me". We will take photos of ourselves then combine it into one. Just take a picture, be it the food you cook. The activities you do.

Me Time. Never ever wait for your significant other to call you. Always have a date with yourself first. It will never do if you just sit there and do nothing. Go and conquer the world, keep yourself fit and healthy and learn something new.

Long distance may not be easy but it can tell you a lot of thing about a person who was in an LDR relationship. Just always remember that if and when you survive it, it will all be worthwhile.

Wednesday, 12 August 2015

LDR Diary #2

Sacrifice. Trust. Understanding. Communication. Patience

These are the important ingredients to survive a long distance relationship. As stated in my previous post, my fiancee is working at Tim Hortons in Victoria, Canada. He is working there close to a month already. To date, we are still communicating everyday (we videochat during my lunch break at the office and before I go to sleep each night. Aside from video chatting, we also send viber texts/messages in between for updates or just to keep the communication line open). It was not easy, at least for me. For four years that we've been together, my life revolved around home, work and him. I do have hobbies since I have attended art workshops/classes like photography, polymer clay making and fabric flower making. For those who knew me, I am a very frugal person, I don't relish taking classes because its pricey despite the fact that it will also be beneficial to me. Nevertheless, I just hate spending money so I prefer to put it in a bank or invest it. So, I have a very limited social life. When my fiancee take off to Canada to work, I have a lot of time on my hand and I don't know what to do about myself. I want to improve on myself, however, I don't know where to start. For the meantime, I while away my time at work, reading books, and most of the time I am awaiting for his messages which sounds pitiful. But what could I do?

Long distance relationship can be very frustrating. You don't know what your plans will be. We were supposed to set the wedding for October 2016, but because of the contract, the processing of the permanent residency the wedding will surely be move to a later (just hoping that it won't be in late 2017 or 2018 - regardless, I am still set on October 2016 **finger crossed**).

One of the fear that I have in this long distance relationship is trust issues. I am not a jealous person by nature since I trust my fiancee not to betray me. I just find it hard to trust the girls around him since separation can also leads to temptation. After all he is a guy. Trust is a very fragile thing. I know that my fiancee love me and will stay faithful, but sometimes I can't help but wonder if he fancies another one, which is very immature of me. I try to get it our of my head since I saw no reasons that he will do that.

I was hoping that in the long run, I would be more confident with what I have and what I feel, I will be doing activities that will satisfies myself and also, I'm hoping that we have a date already so that I can start planning for our wedding so that I can keep myself busy (which I really really wanted). Unfortunately, I will survive and enjoy the ride.

Wednesday, 29 July 2015

Grid-It Organizer: My New Travel Buddy

I have been scouring online for a way to organize my gadgets. My criteria in finding such organizer are simple:
  1. It must hold my things firmly in place
  2. Can be put in a bag without taking up a lot of space
  3. Must have a zippered storage
  4. Unique
I found it at Wellmanson's, which is known for selling a lot of useful things. I even bought their packing cube!

Grid-It Organizer is a must travel companion because it makes things easier. I hate going through my bag just to look for my earphone, my chargers and my pocket Wi-Fi. With Grid-It Organizer, it simply hold my things in place. I am contemplating on buying another once I learn how to doodling. I am going to puts a lots of pens and crafts materials.

My Grid It Organizer! There is still space for my new Romoss Sense 6 20000mAh powerbank!

Wednesday, 22 July 2015

LDR Diary #1

A few minutes ago, my fiance has finally landed in Vancouver, BC, Canada. I have been tracking his flight with the help of FlightAware App. Though Labsie hasn't yet message/update any of us as of this moment still you felt exhilarated by simply following that little plane on your screen.

It is no joke that long distance is hard especially if you are the touch-feely type, but thanks to technology its makes everything seems easier. Last night, Labsie and I saw each other via Facetime, he was still in Taipei then and was strolling through the airport. I don't know if he eventually bought that Nike cap knowing Labsie, maybe he did. Moreover, hearing and seeing him happy through video chat makes me happy too.

As he will be adjusting to the life in Canada, we are going to put wedding planning on hold, but eventually, we'll get to that. His work is the main priority for now so that we can have the life that he always envision for us.

FlightAware-Tracking Labsie Flight

Monday, 6 July 2015

Road Trip to Bicol

We (Labsie, Labsie's Dad and I) went on a road trip to Bicol on Thursday night. Our trip involves lots of car flying into oblivion, and muddy roads, and non-stop winding road. It was an experience. The purpose of the trip is for Papa Jo (Labsie's Dad) to meet my parents and to talk about our plans for the future (i.e. wedding and marriage).
As I inform you in the previous blog post, Labsie will be going to Canada. He is schedule to depart on July 21 so there will be a lots of emails, letters and Skype. And I am going to miss him big time! But not to worry, we have plans, my only hope is that we'll succeed. 

Back to our Bicol Trip, since most of the time my trip to Bicol was a blur because I always fell asleep during the car ride, this time I am awake the whole time. It was actually Tito Jojo first time in Bicol. Upon arriving at the early hours of 5:00 am in Tabaco, Labsie and his father proceeded to hotel to rest. While I reactivate my COMELEC registration so that I will be able to vote on next year national election. All of us have our lunch at home. Papa served Bicol express, Humba, and Laing. We then took a side trip to Mayon's Resthouse. It was windy and you could practically hear the wind howling. Because it was chilly we went to Noks for Lomi to warm us up.

We are schedule to go back to Manila on Saturday afternoon, so we went to Amater Spring Resort to enjoy nature swim. The water was cold and clear. Then we have our lunch again at our house, this time its seaweed (latok) and tuna fish. Fresh Buko Juice was also served. 

It is a good thing that Labsie make time to go to Bicol before he went to Canada so that my parents were aware of our plans.